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November 2006-December 2006
*Entries are bolded and my advice is underneath and italicized*

From: Alyssa
Date: December 26th/06
Hey thanx for the great advice last time but now I have a new problem! I am good friends with the guy I like and he knows I exist but he doesnt talk to me as much and doesn't like me like I like him! I there any way I can get him to like me or anything I can do so he will talk to me? Plzz help!
Heya,
I'm soo sorry for the late reply. My emails just load up. My apologies again. If you want to talk to your friend more, maybe get his email and start talking to him online? That's a really easy way to talk to someone more. Or you can maybe find ways to hang out with him by doing stuff with him and a group of friends. Maybe in that situation you'd be able to talk to him more? But if it turns out that he doesn't like you, unfortunately that's something you just have to accept and with time you will move on. I know it sucks, but that's the best advice I can give. Good luck hun!
-Poonam

From: Annoymous
Date: December 11th/06
Hey I have a problem. See I like this guy but I think he knows I exist. How can I get him to notice me?
Heya,
The best way he'll notice you is if you get to talk to him. Find out if any of your friends know him or any of his friends. That way you can get to know him via friends. Maybe try and get his email/msn or find him on online sites such as myspace/facebook if he's on there. You can message him on there perhaps. Maybe try sitting near him at lunch or hang around where he is during school. That way if he's interested, he'll definitely notice you if you're around him. Hope this is some help and good luck!
-Poonam

From: Devon
Date: December 3rd/06
My friend likes this boy and when she finally got a date with him, He asked me out!! I don't know if I should tell her and sacrifice our friendship or let her find out her self either way she gets hurt and we lose our friendship.What should I do?
Heya,
I would say the best thing to do is tell your friend. You did NOTHING wrong because he was the one who asked you out and you said no. I'd say it's important to tell her because if she found out on her own, it'll be really hurtful for her and she'll wonder why you never told her. (Trust me I know that from experience). I don't think it would cause you guys do lose your friendship. Even though it'll be hurtful for her, she deserves to know and if anything, it should show her that you're a true friend. If she no longer wants to be your friend over it, that would be stupid since again you did nothing wrong. Just be sure to tell her you said no, and you're telling her because you feel she deserves to know. If she's also a true friend, she'll know your intentions are good and you guys shouldn't lose your friendship. Good luck!
-Poonam

From: Danielle
Date: December 3rd/06
hi! UM i have a problem. You see, I like a guy whos dating one of my friends, that wouldn't such a big deal, but before they went out I told my friend that I liked the person she's dating now, so she baiscally just stabbed me in the back! what do i do???!!!
Heya,
That's difficult situation. I'd say you can either 1) tell your friend how you feel or 2) let it go and let her have him since you'd be a better friend than her. I think by going out with him your friend already showed just how "great" of a friend she is. You could approach her and ask "why would you go out with him when you know I liked him? It makes me upset because I thought we were better friends than that". But otherwise you can try and move on from it. It's really unfortunate that your friend doesn't realize how it makes you feel. Good luck with it, hope I've been some help, and if you need anything else, just ask.
-Poonam

From: Dana
Date: November 27/06
Ok, So, I just broke up out of a big relationship with my real true love, i was totally upset. So, Then my best friends hooked me up with someone that i used to like. So, weve been going out for a week or two now, and i think we are getting closer, but now my ex is denying the fact that we ever went out, and it bothers me. He treats me like crap, well i just needed to tell you that part, otherwise, my new boyfriend and i are close now, and my friend just asked me out, and made a rumor up that my boy was cheating on me, so i was really mad when i found out it was fake, What should i do to show him it was not right to lie like that just to have me to himself, and get me to stop loving my Boy Adam?
Heya,
Firstly I'd advise you to talk to your friend who made up the rumour. Explain how it made you upset and that no matter what he says, it's not gonna change how things are between you and your current boyfriend. And if he can't understand that then he clearly isn't a true friend. Secondly, I'm not sure who Adam is, but I'm gonna assume your ex? (If I'm off, then this next advice won't make sense, lol). But as far as getting over someone, it's a matter of time. Having new people in your life or distracting yourself with work/school and friends is a good way to get over someone. But definitely with time, you'll be over the person. Good luck with everything and hope I've been some help!
-Poonam

From: Annoymous
Date: November 11/06
hi, i need your advice you see i like this cuy, ive liked him for ages, he goes to my school and i only talk to him on msn, i cant speak to him in person because i go all shy, he knows i like him, but once i said i didnt like him anymore on msn, and he replied With yes he was all happy, but then he was staring at me at school he always stares like the day after i told him i dont like him anymore i saw him kick the footy and look straight at me it was so weird, and now that he knows i like him again ill be on msn and he will tell me stuff like he'll say "I never see you talk at school" or "your really quite" but even when i told him i dont like him he kept asking me who i liked and when i said no one he'd keep asking and i'd be like no yull get mad and he'll then say, i would if i liked you that way but i dont.. so who do you like, its weird my friend thinks that maybe he likes me to but is afraid to admit it, now im going to hang out wif him an his friends on monday, so its going to be me my friends my crush and his friends, im really nervous, the other day i hung out wif him at school and he looked at me, and i looked at him then we both looked back, to make it easier to understand this is what i see him doing and stuff: LOOKS AT ME: some times straight in the eyes and sometimes just glances ALWAYS SAYS IM QUIET: on msn he always says im quite. I really like him and i want to know if he likes me to, i dunno what to do please help
Heya,
Hmm well this guy could def. be interested. By always telling you that you're quiet, he seems to be hinting that you should talk more to him. But you should note whether or not he tries talking to you in person. I'd say work on talking to him off msn because that'll help you get closer to him. Also, to find out if he likes you, maybe get one of your friends to ask him or one of his friends? That might be easier. Or when he asks you on msn who you like, you could ask him as well in exchange? Good luck with things. Hope this is some help!
-Poonam

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