FUN
ADVICE
January 2007
*Entries are bolded and my advice is underneath and italicized*
From: Sian
Date: January 29/07
there is this boy who i really fancie but when my best friend asked him out for me he just laughed, were good mates but i dont want to ruin out friendship by asking him out what should i do
Heya,
Hmm well do you know if he was seriously laughing? If he was kidding around, I'd say get your best friend to ask him again. She should ask "Seriously, why don't you go out with her? You two would go really well together", and see how he reacts. Asking him out yourself without knowing how he'd react could possibly ruin your friendship and that's why having a friend do it for you would be better. Unfortunately if you find out he doesn't feel the same way, you'll have to accept that and with time, you'll be able to move on and find someone else. Best of luck!
-Poonam
From: Want Him Back
Date: January 27/07
see there is this guy i like and we have already gone out and i broke up with him and now he is going out with a girl that i think is a slut and i dont know what to do he hates me because i said he could do way better than the girl he is going out with i want him back so bad i want him before valentines day what should i do
Heya,
Maybe try talking to him and see what he'd think about you two getting back together? Or if you don't want to ask him directly, get a friend of yours to do it for you. Maybe a friend can say "Heyy you two were cute together. Why don't you get back together?". I'd say figure out how he feels about you two back together. If he's into it, great. If not, unfortunately you'll have to accept that and move on. And trust me, with time you will move on and find someone else. Good luck!
-Poonam
From: Want Him Back
Date: January 27/07
see there is this guy i like and we have already gone out and i broke up with him and now he is going out with a girl that i think is a slut and i dont know what to do he hates me because i said he could do way better than the girl he is going out with i want him back so bad i want him before valentines day what should i do
Heya,
Maybe try talking to him and see what he'd think about you two getting back together? Or if you don't want to ask him directly, get a friend of yours to do it for you. Maybe a friend can say "Heyy you two were cute together. Why don't you get back together?". I'd say figure out how he feels about you two back together. If he's into it, great. If not, unfortunately you'll have to accept that and move on. And trust me, with time you will move on and find someone else. Good luck!
-Poonam
From: Amanda
Date: January 21/07
My name is amanda and my mother left me at the age of 7 and she did continue her relationship with me by calling me for a few years but as time went by she rerely ever i even tried to live with her once and she still made no efforts to try and connect with me and when i tried it felt as though i was being pushed away and as i looked back on times with her i remembered when she made so many promises that she would come down for my birthday and i would brag to my friends that she was coming and then on the day of she would call and let me down and say that she couldn't and when i was younger she only called only on special accations like my birthday and christmas and when she wanted me to visit her and to be honest i never ever wanted to and eventually i grew the guts to confrunt her about it over the phone and all she sould say was that it was hard because she missed us so much which makes no sense at all because if she missed me that much she would call me more often u know but any way my brother and sister both used to feel the same way about it until i said somethin to her but anyways my dad also got the divorce and wanted her to pay child support which she never ever did since she moved away and i know she has the money because she is the manager at wal mart in north carolina (where she moved when she left us) and she won't pay it so i decided not to have her in my life anymore and my brother seems to have total respect for my desician and undrestands .but my sister has absolutely no respect for it and always brings it up and calls me dumb and says very hurtfull comments about it and when i cried she made funn of it and when my cosin made a comment to her about it she began to cry and i said nothing to her at all and she began to take all of her anger out on me she is older then me and i can't defend myself so i said nothing to her and i have tried to explain to her that it is my desician and it's my perogitive and she keeps on and continues to act like this how do i get these comments from her to stop and get her to realize that it hurts me and it's not ok for her to do ? P.s. I felt as though i have been stabbed in the back too many times that is also one of the reasons i decided not to talk to her anymore
Heya,
It sounds to me like your mother leaving has been especially hard on your older sister. She's been extremely hurt by it and probably doesn't know how to handle her hurt. Therefore most of the times she'll take it out on you. I find that to be common among people; when people can't handle how they feel, they can act in such ways. For example, when she sees you crying it's prolly easier for her to make a rude remark about it than try and be comfort and share her feelings. Would sitting down with your sister and having a serious talk be any help? I'd explain to her how her actions make you feel. If doing it directly face to face is hard for you, you can always write her out a letter and leave it in her room? I strongly feel that you'll feel better about the situation once you've let out how you feel to your sister. She also needs to let out her feelings more. I sense she's bottled out a lot of hurt and anger. I hope you guys are able to talk things out because in such a situation you both really need each others love and comfort. Good luck and if you need any more advice, just ask. Take care!
-Poonam
From: Tiffany
Date: January 15/07
hi my name is tiffany and i need help really bad. my mom and family dont really like my boyfriend and the thing is i am crazy about him.. i really do love him more than anything in the world. he has done everything for me and he is always there. i have never felt this way about a guy before. everytime i think about him, talk to him , or see him i get these exciting nervous feelings inside me.. like butterflies. also the other thing is my mom told him hes never to see me or call me again and im going crazy and i can not stop crying about it.. what should i do????
Heya,
Have you spoken to your mom and asked why she doesn't like him? There must be a reason for that right? Most of the time if parents don't like their child's boyfriend it's because they're only trying to protect their child. (Of course that's not always the case). Also, maybe your mom's opinion of your boyfriend will change if she knew him better. Have you ever invited your boyfriend over for a family dinner or something? I'd consider talking to your mom and asking her to give him a chance to get to know him better. If he really is a good guy, your mom should eventually be able to see the good in him. Best of luck!
-Poonam
From: Confused
Date: January 14/07
hey okay see my ex and have been out for a year now but i can't stop thinking about him. its weird because he never broke up with me. he just completely stopped talking to me.But now nm going out with a boy i have known since 3rd grade and he treats me well hes really nice but he also understands that i think about my ex.i want to forget about my ex but i just can't. My current boyfriend doesn't know that my ex not only hurt my feelings but gave me my first kiss. how can i put all that behind me?
Heya,
I think it's only natural to still have an ex in mind. Firstly I think the problem is you got no closure from your relationship since there wasn't an actual break up. Do you think you'd be able to talk to your ex and ask why he just suddenly stopped talking to you? Maybe clearing things up will make you feel better. Also, if you have a good thing going with your new boyfriend, maybe the closer you two get, the more likely you'd be able to forget about your ex? It's all a matter of time in my opinion. Good luck with everything!
-Poonam
From: Confused
Date: January 6/07
I have this friend his name is Ben I REALLY fancy him but the prob is he says he has a girlfriend her name is Angel something Nikita something the something is where he could not remember that's where I think he may be making it up I need help oh and also how do I appeal to a boy loads of my mates say just wear a super short skirt but I want him to se what's on the inside not the pick on the knickers lol
Heya,
In response to your email, hmm he might be making up the girlfriend story if her name always changes. I wouldn't be too worried about that. As far as trying to get him to find you appealing, be yourself! Be and feel confident. I agree that you should want him to like you on the inside. Wearing short skirts is only going to lead him to have a physical attraction and it should definitely be about more than that. I'd say try talking to him more. Do you have his email? If not, find a way to get it, add him on an instant messenger, and that'd be a really good way to get to know each other better. Or maybe try get one of your friends to talk to him if they're closer to him? Maybe find a way to hang out with him in group situations and that might lead to you getting to know each other better. Good luck with things!
-Poonam
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